The Munchkins

Life with identical twins

Separating

on September 17, 2014

I separated the girls three years ago in daycare when they entered the preschool classrooms. There were two rooms so it was an option, and it seemed like it might be the right thing to do. It was. My girls unequivocally do better when they are separated. It forced them to learn how to make friends and navigate the social scene without their sister beside them, and it’s allowed them to each have their own best friends without bickering over who that friend plays with more (which happened last year at after school care).

People often asked me if the girls played together better at home now that they were separated during the day. Maybe? It was hard to say. My kids fight as much as any other siblings, but I never really could give a solid answer because I couldn’t remember how much they fought before.

This summer the girls were together all day every day at summer camp. Their group was fairly large (30-40 kids most days) but they often ended up in the same smaller groups and they hated it. By the end of the summer there was so much fighting, so much bickering, so many tears we were all incredibly ready for school to start.

Since school has started it’s like a breath of fresh air. They have so much fun playing together! It’s a lot more laughter than tears now, a lot more. They are truly excited to come home and play with their sister, which I love. Every once in a while I’ll find something to do near them so I can hear their banter back and forth. So many crazy made up games, sometimes even made up songs. It’s been fabulous!


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